Life-Saving Versus Life-Changing

Yesterday, we finished a three-day internet business boot camp that I host once every few months. In the boot camp, I teach people how to create a strategic game plan and really crush doing business on the internet. It is mostly a closed event, but we also have entrepreneurs join in every now and then.

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Bankrupt in Boot Camp

In this case, one of the entrepreneurs who joined the boot camp is a guy I’ve known for years. Overall, he is a good guy, but he has made some dumb mistakes lately. He is in a really bad place with his business, his customers, and his life. He is nearly bankrupt and when he joined the boot camp, he did not have a good idea about how to get himself out of this trouble.

These three days were interesting for him, to say the least, because in the boot camp, we talk about all of our successes, how much money we are making, and things like that. Many of the people in the group are doing really well financially right now.

Be Afraid of the Dark

As entrepreneurs, whenever something goes wrong, we tend not to ask for a helping hand. We tend to just fix the problem ourselves. However, most of the time, trying to fix it on our own can make the original problem even worse.

Anyway, as he was leaving the event, he told me something that I have been thinking a lot about lately. He said, “This has not only been a life-changing experience, it has been life-saving.” At the time, I didn’t really give it too much thought because I’m really burnt out by the end of these events. Now that I have had time to process it though, when he said “life-saving,” I hope it does not mean what I think it could mean, but it might. That is literally the worst-case scenario – this guy has two kids and a wife, and it’s just awful to think about.

I talked with him about different types of energy, light energy and dark energy. When you are in a bad place, what you usually do not feel like doing is to hang around people with light, positive energy. You are feeling dark, so you want to stay in the dark.

As entrepreneurs, whenever something goes wrong, we tend not to ask for a helping hand. We tend to just fix the problem ourselves. However, most of the time, trying to fix it on our own can make the original problem even worse. One of the great sayings by Ned Hallowell is, “Never suffer alone.”

Step into the Light

One of the toughest things for us to do when we are in a bad place is to step into the light and approach people who can help us. We tend to think, “First, I’ll fix this, then I’ll get back to the good life,” but it doesn’t usually work out that way. There is no guarantee that reaching out will fix your problem entirely, but there is a guarantee that it will help. You will feel better, experience growth, and be better equipped to get through the tough times.

I also asked him – and this might sound a little kooky – but I asked him, “Do you ever notice the difference between light energy and dark energy?” I could not imagine making some of the business decisions he has made without feeling the dark energy creeping in. He told me he thinks he does know the difference, but I said to him, “Really ask yourself on a daily basis, ‘Is this dark or light energy? Will this decision move me towards the light or away from it?’”

I offer this same advice to all of you: If things are bad for you right now, look for the light. Use your feelings to affect your judgment and it will help you make better decisions.

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