Useful Vs Useless
When we go through a hard time in our business, or in life, it is common reaction for us to pull away from life, fix whatever is wrong, and then rejoin society.
Another thing that happens is that when we feel down, we tend to avoid being around positive people. It is difficult to be around energetic people when we are down because there is such a large gap in the emotional level. The best thing we can do, however, is to be around those people if we want to feel better.
I recently had a conversation with a man who expressed to me that he felt “useless.” I can tell you, for a man, that is a terrible feeling.
My advice to him was to train himself to be useful again; find small things to do for other people that could allow him to be of service to them. For example, take one hundred dollars, go out and give ten dollars to ten homeless people or to people he believes need help.
I have learned to tell myself, “this too shall pass.” When you feel down and out, useless, or sad, think of it as a phase you are going through and believe that you will get through it.
I remember a time when I was going through a dark period in my business. I was not in contact with many other entrepreneurs and I was trying to fix everything by myself.
I was scheduled for a big speaking gig and I did not want to do it. I was thinking that I had my own problems to fix and I was not at the top of my game.
The last thing I felt like doing was talking to a bunch of people.
Nevertheless, I did it.
In that moment, something changed. While I was standing in front of that group of entrepreneurs sharing my knowledge about information marketing and I saw that they were really enjoying it, my mood completely shifted. When I saw that I was helping them, I made the switch from feeling useless to useful.
The lesson of the day: when you feel useless, connect with other people and find ways to help them – you will immediately feel useful again.
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